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How to Compliment a Woman
Posted by Bill Preston in Advice on 05/16/2010
It seems so easy. You might mistakenly think that complimenting a woman means telling them they are sweet or pretty or some other generalization. Let me tell you right now that a compliment like this is boring and trite. The idea behind giving a compliment is more than just trying to make the woman feel good, it is about trying to show how you are different than other men out there.
Don’t Say Something Generic
It is totally boring to tell a woman that she is beautiful or pretty or attractive. They’ve heard it a million times before. If you truly want to compliment a woman, think of something unique to say. Don’t tell her she has pretty eyes or nice hair or a great smile. Sure, sometimes this works, but it really doesn’t do a bit of good in setting you apart from every other guy she has ever met. Think of something a little more original to say.
One way to do this is to make your compliment about something that she has invested time or energy in. For instance, when you compliment a woman on the color of her eyes, you can bet she’s heard it a million times before. By saying something like this, you just blend in with the crowd and the dozens of other men who have said the exact same thing.
However, if you compliment her on the way her scarf really brings out the blue in her eyes, then you are already differentiating yourself from other men. You are noticing how she has done something to make herself look more attractive. You are noticing something about what she has done purposefully, not what already exists.
Make it sincere
Women can see through baloney with laser-like accuracy. If you are just saying something to say it in the hopes of flattering her and you don’t really mean it or worse, don’t think that way at all, you are doomed. For instance, don’t tell a woman you like her orange handbag just to say something, especially if you think it is hideous.
Instead, find something that you genuinely do like and compliment her on that.
I truly believe that you can find something to appreciate about every single person you ever meet in your life. Even people you don’t get along with. There is always some quality or trait that you can like about them.
The same goes with meeting women. It might be her quick wit or her infectious laugh or her energy level. There are so many things that make each of us unique, it just takes a bit to recognize them and appreciate them.
If you truly want to compliment a woman, start noticing unique and desirable traits in everyone you encounter. Once you learn to recognize what makes someone special, you will be able to give a genuine, meaningful compliment to a woman. She will recognize your sincerity and your observational powers and this will make you stand out from the crowd.
Bill has been studying How to Pick Up Women for the last 5 years in NYC and is a pick up artist who can help you learn to do the same. The original article can be found here: How to Compliment a Woman.
How to Get a Social Life
Do you find yourself alone at home on a typical night, eyes glued to the TV or the PC monitor? Have you forgotten the last time you discussed a book you read, a concert or show, sports or even politics with other people outside your home or office? If you do, then it’s time to go out, rejoin society, and get a life!
There are seven simple steps to an active social life. Pursuing intellectual or artistic interests outside the house is more fun if you get to share it with other people, and can lead to good conversation and other fun activities. Being socially active also opens up many opportunities for dating attractive and cool women. Immediately do the following:
Cancel your full cable TV or the paid internet-based video and TV service. Besides, they can be way too expensive. This goes a long way in inspiring you to interact with other human beings. If you’re a real TV fanatic, there are local cafe’s or nightspots that sponsor “TV nights”, where you could watch “Lost” with other people and afterwards have a good talk about it over drinks with the other viewers.
Play computer games at the net cafe’s where game geeks can converge and enjoy friendly or serious “Madden NFL” or “Doom 3″ competitions as players or spectators.
Cancel your online shopping or allow your amazon.com, shopping.com and eBay user accounts to be inactive for a while. Abstain from doing all of your grocery and shopping online. The convenience that net shoppers enjoy can sometimes come at the expense of meeting other people. Take a friend with you to the mall for items like clothes or personal electronic items. Don’t be afraid to engage the shopkeepers, clerks and other shoppers – especially any pretty girl looking over the latest iPod at the local Apple shop – in friendly conversation. Finding out about your shop item and talking to people could open up opportunities for meeting and connecting with cute strangers. You can’t do much better than walking away with an email address or a cellphone number for further “product discussions” through mail, calls or SMS. You might even develop your own icebreaker or opening lines when shopping.
Avoid eating take out or deliveries too frequently. Exert effort to eat out with co-workers or friends, even at no frills and (conveniently) no-fuss diners. You can even start an informal dining club, organizing trips to authentic cuisine or ethnic restaurants. Group dining dates in Turkish or Korean restaurants present excellent opportunities for fun.
Get an activity partner or join a group. These are interests or hobbies that you can probably do weekly with a buddy or a small club. Local newspapers, news boards or community newsletters sometimes contain ads of persons looking for a running buddy – or an activity partner for a lot of other different hobbies like cross-stitching, dog training, riding, cycling. There are also community search or group interest websites where you can find people with whom you share a common interest. If you want, you can let your new buddy know you’re single and available and talk them into introducing you to prospective dates, or set up blind dates for you.
Scour your city or community’s social calendar for interesting plays, art exhibition, musicals, classical or pop concerts. Indulge your interest in the arts by seeing visiting artists or artwork exhibits. Once a particular art form strikes your fancy, it usually leads to a little more study in its background to understand its essence. These activities would increase your knowledge and equip you in conversations with “artsy” people.
Donate time and effort to community charity events or causes. These activities do not only enrich the community, but could let volunteers bond with other cause-minded individuals. There are always schoolhouses or playgrounds to build or fix, or soup kitchens or green area cleanup drives that you can give time to. Now, there are even singles volunteer networks where you can socialize and bond with other volunteers after the event.
Once you’ve gotten through the above activities, it would be a cinch to think up other cool activities to go out and mingle. There are local coed sports clubs or athletic teams, music bands, book clubs, wine or beer tasting clubs, the list goes on and on. Just pick a few that interests you most and mix them regularly to have some variety in your social life. You’ll find that you will enjoy being out there with other people so much that even getting a date won’t be much of a hassle anymore.
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Tips on How to Attract Your Ideal Woman
Posted by Janine Hanson in Advice on 01/05/2010
Determine your strength and use it wisely…
Every man has a exceptional skill, whether it is his humor, conversationalist, or sports minded. You should determine your strengths and utilize it wisely into the world of dating women. And do not bother if you are not that good looking. It’s the attitude matters most.
Get help with your family/relatives or friends especially girl friends…
If you are not confident enough, and want to get some help, then approach your friends especially your girl friends if you are having some trouble in asking a girl out on a date. Ask their opinion and advices.
You should remember that social and dating skills cannot be learnt from classrooms…
Bragging all the time and not listening to other’s advice is not the way you can improve your skills in regards to how you can interact well with others. Try to have a good communication with other people and welcome them into your warm personality.
Be approachable when others are in need…
You are should be open handed if sometimes other people need some help or support. In this complicated world, women need more physical security, and guide them especially their emotions are very weak.
You should not ask some controversial issues…
You can ask her a lot of questions but avoid bringing out some controversial issues that might upset her. A question that is interesting but of course, with a sense. An interesting questions makes a smooth conversation.
You should realize that you are taking a risk…
Find other little things that you think, if you do or make it, it would be romantic. Sometimes, it is a tough thing to do on a guy’s part. Usually, they assume that real man should not express their true feelings because if you do, you are a weakling. That is absolutely not true! Being confident with yourself, you must be able to show your feelings for her. She might reject you and she may hurt your feelings, but that is a risk that you should face it bravely.
You should be unpredictable…
You should think of something not usual to do that is fun doing together. This doesn’t need to be fancy, because there are other ways than can make a romantic and memorable date. If a woman really loves to dance, and if you cannot meet the expense of going out in a club, then play some romantic or upbeat music at your home, with a bottle of wine – chill and relax!
Try to make an effort and cook her meal…
A woman you are dating right now will fell delighted if you make an effort going to a grocery market and cook a meal for her. It doesn’t have to be various gourmet feasts. Just cook something simple like making a salad; this is really advisable if you are not that good in cooking. Women really like this set-up and will find it very romantic. And even if it doesn’t taste that great, she will still be grateful for your effort.
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Dating Tips For Shy Guys
Posted by Janine Hanson in Advice on 01/05/2010
Dating Location…
The place of your very first date should be plan very cautiously. A lot of the times, guys assume that taking a woman to a bar and clubs will make them look very cool in her eyes. This is quite a bad idea. Actually, a bar is a not a good place to go out on a date, especially if this is your very first date to this woman. For the reason that bar and clubs are really too noisy and too packed, and you would not be able to spend some time alone with your date nor even you won’t able to have a decent conversation with her. That is why; pick a location where you can spend some time with her and talk to her without having a too noisy background like having a date at the park, lake or even at the hill facing the beautiful city view. In this kind of places, you will be able to make a good conversation with her which helps you getting to know more about each other.
Ask appropriate questions and listen carefully…
Being a shy guy, you are not sure about what you should say to your date correctly, and it might look like you are bragging off. Be careful of certain things as it might turn off a woman and she may never want to have a second date with you again. For that reason, instead of thinking so much about what you have to say, try to listen on what she has to say. You can ask some certain facts about her, like her family’s culture, about her education or her job, which she may respond instantly. Consequently, whenever she is talking, just lend you ear to her and you may determine some things that you have in common which will lead to a deeper and interesting discussions.
Always be honest and truthful…
Many men assume that women are only attracted to men who are very assertive, and for this reason, try to fake their personalities just to get the attention of women. But you don’t have to pretend. Then again, my dating tips for shy men will be: be honest of what you really are, tell her about your true qualities and if you do not have an impressive quality, of course you can improve it. Being honest will earn you a lot of respect from women. She will appreciate it and you will feel better. It will also add on your self confidence and it will make you comfortable.
Work on your physical appearance…
Shy guys always move away from the attention and they dress up in a way that makes them hard to be considered as the center of attraction. Though, they don’t realize that because of this, this may make them imperceptible by a lot of women. Even if you are not that good looking, you can easily attract them. Dress up neatly, appropriately and comfortably. This one of the vital flirting tips for shy guys. It can really help you out in getting a woman’s attention to you.
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How to Deal With the Woman Who Only Wants to Be Your Friend- After All Your Effort
Posted by Janine Hanson in Advice on 01/05/2010
The most disappointing thing for a man is to find out that the woman he really adores for a very long time has no feeling for her and only wants to be his ‘friend’. This kind of circumstances can be even more upsetting if you spent so much effort and devoted a lot of time courting her but in the end, it all goes out in trash. If you are in agony from this dilemma, these are some few pointers how to deal with it and stop being a fool. Realize these things:
*Change your usual approach – A lot of guys find it very difficult to say directly to the woman that they want to take these understandings to an upper level, serious relationship. If you don’t want say the honest truth about what you feel, the most excellent thing you can make is to alter your typical approach to her. Make her perceive this amendment in you and in a short time, she will slowly value your importance and in return, she will treat you the way it should be.
*You have to make her jealous – Since you are her friend, she always expect that you are always there for her, true? Now, you should stop being there for her every now and then. Start making connections or flirt with other women and be certain that she noticed it that you are going out with other gorgeous women. If she asks you out, tell her you that you have a lot of work to do with a cold tone. This kind of draw will definitely make her think about you even more, realizing that she is slowly loosing. And she will begin opposing with other gorgeous women to get back your attention to her.
*You should tell her honestly about what you feel – If you don’t like this ‘friend’ treatment, you should tell her honestly about what you feel for her from the beginning. Say it honestly that you are ready to start being her friend, but make her understand that you don’t want this ‘friend’ situation to stay this way forever.
*Be her dream man – For instance, she really likes man who is really has self confidence or a man that has goal in life. In that case, you should turn yourself into that kind of guy. If she really is attracted to extroverts, then you should be that kind of man too. Make it all happen! Do the things she likes about a guy. For this reason, you will get her attracted to you in no time.
*You should just accept the reality – The moment she tells you about her feelings that she only looks at you as a friend, stop persuading and accept the truth. Take it like a true gentleman. Stop pretending and stop assuming that she will change her mind. Stop wasting your time and end your effort convincing her. Keep in mind, there are lots of fishes in the ocean to catch.
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Dating Tips For Men- Flirt Naturally Like Women Do
Posted by Janine Hanson in Advice on 01/05/2010
When it comes to women, they flirt with men so naturally. Do you ever wonder how they easily do that and how you could also flirt that looks so natural?
You should know how to bring out your natural flirt to the world of dating women. However, you do not know where to begin? If you are teasing a woman, you should enjoy the moment to make it natural. Because a lot of women find that flirting can be very enjoyable, but most guys are too shy and fail to get started.
There is no reason to not bring out your natural flirt out, have fun, and flirt naturally as everyone else does…
You should always smile attractively…
A lot of times smiling is one of the greatest way to be comfortable. It will also make you attractive and appealing. But do not exaggerate your smile to show that you very are easy to talk with. For that reason, a lot of women will feel at ease coming near you. This will boost you self confidence and flirting will come out naturally.
You should always be yourself…
Do not feel very anxious; just be yourself in everything you do. This will help you out getting your ideal date and you can easily have fun going out. Always be optimistic, pleasurable, and cool. It is easy to flirt with them if you act naturally. Every one of us has flirty side of their lives, sometimes, you just need to explore and focus working on it instead if thinking about what other people might say.
You should always keep the eye contact…
Keeping the eye contact is really essential. If you are looking at her eyes directly while she is talking, it shows that you are paying attention to her. Simultaneously, keeping an attractive eye contact to the woman you like can trigger her interest knowing you. Look at her with those alluring eyes to give her a signal that you are interested on her. Give her your best attractive smile and just simply look away.
You should talk to her in a good manner…
You voice tone is very important as well. And even given the fact that it is too crowded and too noisy, avoid using a harsh tone. Yelling at her won’t give any good impression and she might only feel intimidated. She might think that you are a very creepy guy. Instead of talking loudly because of the noisy crowd, come near her and gently speak to her at her ear. This will give her goose bumps in an attractive. It will think that you are sweet and very considerate.
Use your body language smartly…
A gentle physical touch is a great factor when it comes to flirting with women. You should not exaggerate doing it, not in a vulgar manner. Touch her hand, her hair, upper back or her shoulder very gently.
End it with a gentle talk and light physical touch and will surely be attracted to you.
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Magic Tricks to Attract Women
Posted by Bill Preston in Advice on 12/12/2009
Women like to be entertained. Women like to laugh. Women like to have fun and be impressed. These are just a few reasons why magic tricks can be used to attract women.
One of the most important elements that help attract women is that in order to do a magic trick in front of a woman, you must have some level of confidence in yourself and in performing the trick. Confidence is sexy. Confidence is attractive. Women are attracted to men who have confidence. It shows that the man has self esteem.
But achieving this type of confidence is easier than you think. If you learn the magic tricks that will help you attract women, you will become confident sooner than you think.
Unlike approaching a woman with a pick up line, you will take her off guard when you offer to show her a magic trick. The majority of women will agree to see it. That is the first step. You have been able to approach a woman and offer her something she likes – entertainment.
Another benefit in approaching a woman and offering to show her a magic trick is that you are establishing that there is an end to the time period she must pay spend with you. That is OK. You will make her want to spend time with you.
A woman is more likely to be responsive when she doesn’t feel pressured to spend the rest of the evening talking to someone who just walked up to her out of the blue. When you approach a woman offering to show her a trick, you could even say something like, “Hey, I want to show you this magic trick before my friends and I take off in a few minutes.”
Then do your magic.
You can impress her with your personality — whether your style is intellectual, charming or serious — as you do the trick. While you are doing your trick, you can also engage her in a little conversation. Because you are performing a trick, the chit chat is non-threatening.
The next crucial element is that you can impress her with your abilities – another point for you. It takes some confidence and skill to pull off a magic trick and most women find it attractive.
There is one other element that really helps when meeting a woman. While doing your trick or engaging in small talk, it helps to get the woman to laugh. Sometimes just watching your work will bring out a delighted giggle. She may laugh either because she is amazed by your ability or just because it she is happy to be entertained. Once you have her laughing, her guards and barriers are down and you can then move onto the next step, which is getting to know her in a real way.
But remember, make it a brief conversation and then move on. Of course you should ask for her number so you can continue the conversation at a later date. Chances are good that she will want to continue speaking to you more. You just came up to her and impressed her with your skill, your confidence and your nonthreatening sense of fun and nonchalance. It is nearly a sure-fire combination.
Bill has been studying pickup lines and magic tricks to attract women as a guest instructor at the top Pickup Artist boot camp for the last 5 years in NYC. The original article can be found here: Magic Tricks to Attract Women.
Let it Be Revealed: Secrets of Building Uplifting Relationships
Posted by Brenda Shoshanna in Advice on 12/08/2009
Whatever we are in life, we bring to our relationships. When a relationship begins we may expect to get our needs met, feeling that everything will work out just the way we want it to. Nothing can be further from the truth.
We have been programmed to believe that if we get what we want, we are a success. We want excitement, change, pleasure, stimulation, good friends, praise and happy conversation. This is also what we want from relationships. But for relationships to be truly successful we must learn how to deal with not getting what we want at all.
In healthy, uplifting relationships individuals will not find themselves threatened by the challenges that arise. They won’t wonder why love has vanished when they don’t get what. In fact, they will grow to learn that fulfillment will not come from what they get, but from what they are able to give. The challenge is not learning how to be loved by your partner, but learning how to be loving.
Until you realize this, you are bound and chained to search for what you think you need in other people. You do this because your life long search for happiness, comfort, value and meaning has always been directed to the external world. That’s why when you find someone, very often you hold on too tight, and inadvertently drive the person away . You do not stop to realize that the external world, including the people in it are always changing – so how can you hold on tight?
When you make your success or happiness dependent upon the people you find, you place yourself in a ready made trap. Sometimes this search yields exciting results, but inevitably, both the person and the feelings you have for them change – they have to. This change is then interpreted as failure. There is no such thing as failure in real love. Real love knows that which changes and that which remains forever.
As soon as you build an uplifting relationship, you start the process of taking back your scattered energies, discovering how to extricate yourself from traps, and truly learn to love. This process requires patience. But without patience we have nothing. Developing patience is at the very heart of our ability to love.
Developing Patience
Love without patience is like soup without liquid – impossible to drink. It can even be said that patience is love itself. In the frantic, demanding world we live in, patience has been relegated to a shadow of the past. We never allow time for love to develop. But patience is greatly needed for the flower of love to bloom. It takes time for a person to feel at home and reveal who they are. It takes patience to wait for another, to develop true caring and trust.
Most of us, however, have a difficult time with patience. Starving for love, we want it immediately and will often grab at anything just to satisfy ourselves. It’s the hollow feeling within we can’t tolerate that drives their lives. Some don’t even know the difference between true nourishment and poison, they’ll take anything, so long as they can quickly feel full. As we build uplifting relationships, we learn how to wait and distinguish the false from the real. No one can tell us how to do this. There are no ready-made solutions, we have to grapple with the experiences of life directly, taste them, digest them and discover what they mean for us ourselves. Without the willingness to endure, wait and taste life for ourselves nothing real can happen. Life and love happen in a second, and yet it takes preparation to be ready to receive them and let what is true be revealed.
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